We have ramped up our search for a fellow girly submissive friend for all of us, but primarily for Wifey, over the past few weeks, and we have begun conversing with a nice person that may hopefully be promising for the friendship we are hoping for! This person lives about an hour away, which is not too bad, is the same age as Wifey, and also is not able to live as her girly self 24/7, but does so as much as possible. She and wifey had chatted for a few days, and then yesterday I had a chance to spend a few hours chatting and getting to know her.
It things continue on a positive path this week it looks like we may all be meeting this coming weekend! I don’t like to waste a lot of time “on-line” as none of us have a lot of free time to begin with! I like to have in person relationships and use chatting or texting as a means to keep communication lines open when not together, but by no means have that be the primary communication.
What exactly the dynamic would look like when we find the right submissive girly friend, is to be determined. It is possible that K and I would be open to dominating the person, as I am dominant, and K enjoys being dominate along side me, and that may be the best fit to make sure everything stays on a track I am okay with. If I control the sexual pleasure of both of them, I can make sure that the only things that happen are things that I allow. It would also remind Wifey that even though I am letting her have this outside relationship, I am still her primary relationship, and her obedience to me (and K), respecting my wishes as far as what develops, is the most important.
Wifey, as with any transgender, I feel will never be 100% content with where she is at, with her body image, ability to live this lifestyle full-time as a woman, and so forth. I help to keep her grounded and safe in the reality we live in, with the level we are able to do this, and I am the voice of reason when she wants to take things too far out of her strong desire to be as female as possible, but not being able to go 100% because of her work and our family. I really hope that having a fellow friend to go through this with will help her be more content and accept the things she cannot have because of our situation.
It is a big step for me to allow Wifey to build a relationship that will allow her to be very attached to another person besides me (and K). I by no means want her going off having some side life without me, but I don’t feel that will happen because I very much want to know the person she gets close to, and become close to them too, and K is open to that as well. Wifey needs this more than he and I do, but that doesn’t mean we won’t enjoy it as much as Wifey does.
I am confident Wifey will remember who owns her, who is ultimately in control, and will continue to respect the great trust I have in her, as we grow this relationship with, hopefully this new person, and if not then some future person, as she knows that violating my trust would be the only way to cause permanent damage to our close and loving relationship. I am mostly excited for the future may have in store for us all, seeing my beloved Wifey make a close friend, and the only thing making me a little bit nervous right now, is just not wanting to ever see her be hurt! But you can’t make close lasting relationships in life without risking a little sorrow in the process.
We will keep you posted.