A couple weeks ago Wifey went to meet another potential friend who lives in our area. They had been talking for several days and seemed to hit it off and have a lot of great conversations! I am a big believer in meeting up fast to see if there is anything worth pursuing rather than spending weeks and months conversing over messenger or text or even the phone! This was not always my belief as I took my time meeting Wifey, but it has since served me well in this lifestyle.
So the evening came for Wifey to go off and meet her new hopeful friend! She spent a good while getting ready, shaving, doing her make up, getting her wig all fluffed up, and choosing a cute outfit! I must save Wifey did look beautiful and also quite passing! They had made plans to meet at a restaurant of the other person’s choosing. Wifey was excited, and had her hopes up for a fun evening.
She ended up being gone for about 2.5 hours so I assumed all was going well. When she came home I was excited to see her and K and I asked her if she had fun, and we were met with a “NO”. She then filled us in on the night and told us that this person (who was going as a male, not dressed fem at all) changed her mind and wouldn’t even go inside the restaurant and instead asked to sit in our car and talk. Wifey obliged, but honestly, I wish she wouldn’t have. It was rude! She put herself out there, and the other person wasn’t even willing to go inside?!?
I don’t understand the point! I give credit for not blowing Wifey off totally, but it also frustrates me that Wifey had to go through that. So they spent some time talking, and it became clear to Wifey that this person was not ready to be pursuing anything as a female. Wifey left the encounter feeling like it was going no where, so when the conversation between them stopped after that night, she did not feel compelled to reach out.
I understand that these type of situations are going to be part of this journey and something that Wifey must go through in order to find a good friend eventually, but it still sucks! I don’t like to see her disappointment, that is hard for me to handle. It was easier for me to handle my own disappointment as we searched for a good man to fit in with us. My protectiveness kicks in and I don’t like to see my beloved Wifey treated poorly.
This all got me thinking how incredible it really is that Wifey has been able, with my help and support (as well as K) to blossom more into what she wants to be. It really does take an element of courage to realize what you are and take some steps to go after it. Even if she isn’t transitioning as some can, she is a huge step farther along than many people are. She isn’t hiding from what she wants to be, she is just hiding what she is from those who would never understand and would either be hurt or upset to the point it could ruin other elements of our life that we need to survive. Wifey has enough self confidence to get dressed, be in public in safe environments and put herself out there, and that is more than we can say for so many others! So Wifey, I am very proud of you!