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Well, That Was a Bummer!

Posted on December 19, 2018 by polykinksters

Over the weekend the three of us went to meet a potential friend for Wifey, and hopefully for all of us, and it did not quite go as we had hoped it might. We had a nice conversation over the course of two hours, but the person did not seem overly interested in Wifey. The conversation wasn’t awkward, but it did lack the smooth flow that we found the first time we met K in such a setting. Still, I felt comfortable enough from the meeting to be okay allowing the person to come spend some future time at our house hanging out, and I said as much via text that evening, to be met with an answer that she had to do some thinking. Wifey also tried to chat later that night and was given the same blow off. We knew the person had to work on Sunday, so when the entire day went by with no word, on Monday morning I sent a message and asked where her thoughts were at, rather bluntly to find out if there was any point continuing.

Long story short, the person really had no interest in Wifey or K, but would be interested in having a relationship with me and submitting to me. Obviously the answer was going to be that it doesn’t work for me, but after that message there was another one that asked me to please let Wifey know. That just pissed me off, because after over a week of a good bit of conversing, I felt that my Wifey deserved at least to be told by this person herself! SoI never dignified it with an answer, and instead ended the chat and the social connection with this person. I broke the news to Wifey and told her not to lose hope, reminded her how many people we had to talk with and meet on our path to finding K, and that it might take time to find the right fit and friend.

So we are back to our search for a special gal pal for Wifey, and over the last couple days she has been chatting with a couple new people, which is good for other perspective even if not every conversation leads somewhere big.

Some New Rules, Rewards and Expectations

Posted on December 17, 2018 by polykinksters

Over the past week K and I have given some thought to some new rules, expectations and rewards for Wifey. One significant change is that there will be the opportunity each week for Wifey to earn light punishment, severe punishment and also rewards, but punishments, unless there are multiple severe ones, will not result in loss of rewards earned. All rewards will now be in the form of intimacy with me. Depending on the amount of good things done to put towards rewards will depend how much intimacy with me. This can include things like being allowed to French kiss me, lick my to orgasm, lick my asshole, or maybe even eat a cream pie from me. On our older system, rewards were seldom earned, but I don’t want the tedious silly things Wifey does on the naughty list to ruin her chances to have that special connection time with me. I also like the fact that this is designed so he can control how many weeks she gets to have something intimate with me, by her behavior, so the choice is hers. If that special connection time with me is important to her then she will make sure she hits her mark every week!

The expectations that can lead to the minor punishments (usually the reddened ass kind) will be things like keeping the stove clean, putting away clean dry dishes (K actually has been doing the majority of the dishes), but also washing the dishes if he (we) are not able to, refilling ice-cube trays, making sure laundry is done to our standards, taking trash out timely, and saying her mantra on her hands and knees. There are a few other things, but you get the idea.

The ways Wifey will start earning more severe punishments are if we find she is not embracing a positive attitude about herself and others. Wifey tends to spend more time in a negative head space than a positive one, and I need that to change for her sake and mine. If she does not communicate maturely and directly, that will be another way. Sometimes Wifey bottles things up till she explodes with outbursts that are hurtful and emotionally damaging, all because she does not say what is on her mind, despite how she knows that communication is vital. If you are wondering, this is not pertaining to our threesome, but more her struggling feelings of wanting to be more female. There is a lot emotionally to figuring out you are a transgender and should have been in the other body, but being in a life where you lived as the opposite sex so long, and an outing would probably damage your family relationships and work ones. Among a couple other things, forgetting to say her mantra to us multiple times a week will also result in a harsher punishment. I feel this mantra, which we have tried a long time to have, and Wifey was extremely inconsistent with, is an important part of our day. It makes me feel special each day when Wifey recommit herself to me (us). The other big one, which has become an issue over the last few months, is that when we are talking to Wifey, about anything of substance, I expect her to put her phone or iPad down and actually look at us. This annoys me to no end, and in this day and age almost all of us use these devices for so many things, that it is easy to get absorbed into them and forget when it is actually downright rude and counter productive to your close relationships, to be on them!

The ways Wifey will earn rewards (special intimate time with me) is by doing things like having a positive attitude, presenting us ideas and ways for her to feel more girly without medication or pills, which is not realistic for our life, finding locations we can travel to that are within a 2-3 hour radius from home for weekend getaways for us all so she can be fully fem and we can all enjoy new areas, doing extra housework not on the normal list of small things, doing sweet things for us, surprising us, offering back rubs, foot rubs, and saying the mantra daily with a heartfelt manner.

One common thing in the past is that Wifey feels we are just out to get her. This isn’t really the case, and honestly sometimes I have felt like it is just an excuse not to try harder, but this will remove that notion from her mindset, because unless she racks up so many naughty things, we will not take away her rewards for the good things. Wifey is a very thoughtful person normally, and until she struggled with the loss of a special family member this year as well as her growing emotional struggle with her own body, she normally is a very upbeat person, excited about life. I am hoping that these new expectations will help her get past this and be back to being the Wifey we know and love! It is probably a conclusion most would jump to when you live in this dynamic and there is an emotional change, that it must be the dynamic that is the issue, but after hours and hours and hours of communication, that is not the case, it is just that wanting to live in the body you were not born into is emotionally difficult!

A Good Discussion

Posted on December 11, 2018 by polykinksters

Last night the three of us had a good discussion about what we are all wanting from adding another person to the mix, primarily as a close friend for Wifey. After careful consideration, we all agreed that initially we will all meet the person, and get to know them, but the bulk of the in between communication should be between Wifey and this person. We also debated on whether the person should submit to me if they were a submissive not under someone’s control, and as much as I am a control freak, I don’t think it is a good idea for the person to submit to me 24/7.

There are many reasons for this. One of which is that our life is so busy as it is, that on an ongoing regular basis I already feel stretched thin. I don’t want all my creative juices going to this 4th person, when Wifey deserves to have the best of my creative juices. I would not want Wifey’s submission to feel second fiddle to someone else’s, and I might feel obligated to throw more the other person’s way because they would not be here all the time. The other main reason is that I do not want this person getting more attached to me (or K), than they will be to Wifey, and then Wifey becoming the side focus, while they really just primarily want to submit to me. That would not be fair and would also undermine what we are trying to accomplish here.

Wifey needs a friend, we all need friends, but I do NOT need (or necessarily want) another submissive. I do however enjoy kinky fun play, so if this person is over, and we happen to all be free and feeling frisky, I would be happy to play with this person, along with K, or give Wifey and her friend a joint play scene. That seems much more doable for me, and a much better fit with our life. It should also prevent the other things I was worried about.

I think my control freak nature will kick in if I feel like the friendship is causing Wifey to be less content with her life right now. When I say that, I don’t mean to sound like she is not content with the way we live, as a threesome, but rather not fully content with the level she is able to be a woman. We wish we lived in a world where we could be wide open with what she is and how we live, but sadly, we do not. Wifey would lose work clients if this was brought to the surface with everyone. Who knows how some people would react. If we can live how we want 95% of the time, and just be discreet with the rest, I feel that is best. Therefore she is never going to be 100% content, but I want to get her as close as possible. If any type of friendship started making it harder for her to accept our reality, then I might be concerned. But my hope is that her friend(s) she makes will be similar in that they are not able to fully transition either, and then they can be a sounding board for each other.

We made plans last night to meet this new possible friend on Saturday afternoon, so I hope that it all goes well and she and Wifey hit it off and it is the start of a great friendship! We will all be going this first time, and then go from there. I really hope that this friend will be able to understand and relate to Wifey in a way that K and I are not even able to, and that this really blossoms into something Wifey can feel secure with.

Time will tell!

Mistress

Quest to Meet Another Girly Friend

Posted on December 10, 2018 by polykinksters

We have ramped up our search for a fellow girly submissive friend for all of us, but primarily for Wifey, over the past few weeks, and we have begun conversing with a nice person that may hopefully be promising for the friendship we are hoping for! This person lives about an hour away, which is not too bad, is the same age as Wifey, and also is not able to live as her girly self 24/7, but does so as much as possible. She and wifey had chatted for a few days, and then yesterday I had a chance to spend a few hours chatting and getting to know her.

It things continue on a positive path this week it looks like we may all be meeting this coming weekend! I don’t like to waste a lot of time “on-line” as none of us have a lot of free time to begin with! I like to have in person relationships and use chatting or texting as a means to keep communication lines open when not together, but by no means have that be the primary communication.

What exactly the dynamic would look like when we find the right submissive girly friend, is to be determined. It is possible that K and I would be open to dominating the person, as I am dominant, and K enjoys being dominate along side me, and that may be the best fit to make sure everything stays on a track I am okay with. If I control the sexual pleasure of both of them, I can make sure that the only things that happen are things that I allow. It would also remind Wifey that even though I am letting her have this outside relationship, I am still her primary relationship, and her obedience to me (and K), respecting my wishes as far as what develops, is the most important.

Wifey, as with any transgender, I feel will never be 100% content with where she is at, with her body image, ability to live this lifestyle full-time as a woman, and so forth. I help to keep her grounded and safe in the reality we live in, with the level we are able to do this, and I am the voice of reason when she wants to take things too far out of her strong desire to be as female as possible, but not being able to go 100% because of her work and our family. I really hope that having a fellow friend to go through this with will help her be more content and accept the things she cannot have because of our situation.

It is a big step for me to allow Wifey to build a relationship that will allow her to be very attached to another person besides me (and K). I by no means want her going off having some side life without me, but I don’t feel that will happen because I very much want to know the person she gets close to, and become close to them too, and K is open to that as well. Wifey needs this more than he and I do, but that doesn’t mean we won’t enjoy it as much as Wifey does.

I am confident Wifey will remember who owns her, who is ultimately in control, and will continue to respect the great trust I have in her, as we grow this relationship with, hopefully this new person, and if not then some future person, as she knows that violating my trust would be the only way to cause permanent damage to our close and loving relationship. I am mostly excited for the future may have in store for us all, seeing my beloved Wifey make a close friend, and the only thing making me a little bit nervous right now, is just not wanting to ever see her be hurt! But you can’t make close lasting relationships in life without risking a little sorrow in the process.

We will keep you posted.

Mistress

Magical Hands

Posted on December 7, 2018 by polykinksters

Wifey has magical hands, and both K and I got to reap the benefits of them last night. First K was stretched out on the couch, in just his boxer briefs, getting a nice long back scratch from Wifey. K finds a back scratch more relaxing than a back rub, and Wifey has nice finger nails for that. So there Wifey was, sitting in her girly clothes, on her bean bag chair in front of the couch, pampering her wife’s boyfriend, who she also submits to. I was sitting on the end of the couch playing a game on my iPad, enjoying watching it.

Then when she was done with that I had her give me a a nice long foot massage, which feels incredible! My one foot has been achy lately, for some unknown reason, and so the foot rub felt amazing! Once K went up to bed, I decided to stretch out on the couch and have Wifey give me a back rub, which also felt amazing, and then a head rub too. I started my day much earlier than normal, and had a rough day at work, with a headache to boot, so Wifey’s extra long pampering of me was truly appreciated!

Wifey loves to serve that way, and her hands are magical when they soothe away aches and pains and bring about such a state of relaxation! K and I are very lucky she likes to pamper us this way, submissive or not!

Thank you Wifey!

Mistress

Yummy Cummy Treat

Posted on December 5, 2018 by polykinksters

Mistress and K didn’t feel that my cock sucking skills were up to par with how he likes it so they purchased me a double ended dildo to practice and have something long enough to throat fuck. After many attempts and gagging over a few months, I was finally able to get 7″ crammed in my mouth and into my throat on a regular basis.

As my reward, I was summoned up to the bedroom last week and Mistress told me that I could suck K’s cock and to do it the way he likes it and the only way that makes him cum. She also told me that if I couldn’t get him off that she would use the bug zapper on the tip of my clit 10 times, not that I needed motivation because I love sucking cock and getting a mouth full of cum.

K likes the entire length of his shaft sucked from the head to the balls. Up and down in a non stop moderately paced manner with the tongue applying pressure to the underside. It takes a lot for him to cum so I spent a considerable amount of time with his cock in my mouth and throat. Mistress verbally debased me the entire time as she was using her vibe. She told me if his cock left my mouth that my clit would get zapped 4 times for each infraction. K needs continuous, consistent stimulation in order to cum. Saliva was draining from my mouth onto his balls and I gagged on occasion but kept it in my mouth to save my clit from intense pain.

I could feel his cock get harder and begin to throb. He lost this for a few minutes and I was thinking that I wouldn’t be able to get him off and be punished for it, not to mention how much I love a big load of hot cum in my mouth. Finally it regained a rock hardness, throbbing in my mouth until he grabbed my head and blew a huge load of his thick, tasty cum in my mouth.

Mistress told me not to swallow and to show them both the large puddle of cum that filled my mouth. She told me to swish it around in my mouth and after a minute or so before I was allowed to swallow my reward.

He made me work hard for it but it was well worth it. Who can complain when you get cock for in your mouth for 45 minutes. What can I say, I love cock and being a cum bucket.

Wifey

Munch Was Fun

Posted on December 2, 2018 by polykinksters

The three of us attended the munch the other night, and we did have a good time! It is always awkward being new at something like that where you feel like everyone else has friendships established, but a couple of the group leaders came and made us feel welcome, and we met up with a gentleman who had found me on fetlife and was returning to the group for the first time after a long time away. Then another couple came to find us who we thought we may end up having some stuff in common with so we are looking forward to getting to know them better! The only way you can make friends is to keep going, so we are going to check out more events!

The good news is no one made us feel out of place being a threesome and I think in time we will make some friends!

This past week was hectic as fuck for us all, and left no time for sexy fun. We were all run ragged and looking forward to this weekend with all three of us off work and home together! Yesterday K and I got to sleep in a bit, before getting up with our pup, and we let Wifey sleep another hour or so. Then I made us all a nice breakfast and fell asleep on the couch for an hour nap! It was soooo needed. Later in the afternoon K and I went upstairs to play, which resulted in me swallowing his big load of cum and me getting off three times! Wifey had to do an errand and was not able to be here, but we later informed her she has a choice to make today. She can either cum, or she can get locked back up in her tight little metal cage. She has been unlocked for a month or so! I am curious to see which path she will choose.

Today we have a lot of odds and ends at home to get done, but I am sure we will make it fun too!