Over the weekend the three of us went to meet a potential friend for Wifey, and hopefully for all of us, and it did not quite go as we had hoped it might. We had a nice conversation over the course of two hours, but the person did not seem overly interested in Wifey. The conversation wasn’t awkward, but it did lack the smooth flow that we found the first time we met K in such a setting. Still, I felt comfortable enough from the meeting to be okay allowing the person to come spend some future time at our house hanging out, and I said as much via text that evening, to be met with an answer that she had to do some thinking. Wifey also tried to chat later that night and was given the same blow off. We knew the person had to work on Sunday, so when the entire day went by with no word, on Monday morning I sent a message and asked where her thoughts were at, rather bluntly to find out if there was any point continuing.
Long story short, the person really had no interest in Wifey or K, but would be interested in having a relationship with me and submitting to me. Obviously the answer was going to be that it doesn’t work for me, but after that message there was another one that asked me to please let Wifey know. That just pissed me off, because after over a week of a good bit of conversing, I felt that my Wifey deserved at least to be told by this person herself! SoI never dignified it with an answer, and instead ended the chat and the social connection with this person. I broke the news to Wifey and told her not to lose hope, reminded her how many people we had to talk with and meet on our path to finding K, and that it might take time to find the right fit and friend.
So we are back to our search for a special gal pal for Wifey, and over the last couple days she has been chatting with a couple new people, which is good for other perspective even if not every conversation leads somewhere big.